February 5, 2011

Pretty soon I have to deal with the fact that I have taken on more to do than I can possibly manage. I can hear Gloria saying (loudly!) “Give it away!” I feel like I have been giving stuff away but clearly there is some kind of exponential factor going on here. The more you give away the more you’ve got to give away. I guess that’s what abundance is all about.

Giving stuff away is also a dynamic process. The gift must be accepted. And then there’s that difficult space – at least for me – giving something away doesn’t necessarily mean I don’t want to take it back.

Yesterday gave me a good example of this. I have formed an informal partnership with two of my Wisdom City Team colleagues. One is an excellent networker and through her we got to interview David Tsibouchi, a former Cabinet Minister in the Conservative Provincial Government. Things were going well in my view and then this woman turned the conversation into “disability” and claimed that we don’t have an identity as the three of us together. Although this is true in a formal business way, we had already talked about how we have a common accomplishment as being team leaders in the production of the Wisdom course and have international accomplishments that we can lay claim to. Anyways, I had that moment of feeling that I was being left in an untenable position of, first of all, appearing to not know what I’m doing and secondly, being drawn back into the M Level disability conversation.

So what I’m saying is that I have given away unilateral control and suddenly want to snatch it back because it looks to me like the situation could only go in a wrong direction.

It seems like no matter how good I get at communicating who I am and what I want, not to mention what I have to offer, these things don’t get remembered or don’t get appreciated in a way that supports me to move the Inclusion action forward. Now I know that’s not strictly true, maybe not even sort of true – I’m just letting you know how it seems in a situation like that.

In other words I want to keep control over my own legacy. I don’t want to give it away even though that’s what needs to happen with any legacy. It’s a real pain in the ass to keep on hearing over and over again that I’m a leader in the disability world.

Actually I can name you at least half a dozen people who are leaders in the “disability” world who would flatly say that I’m not a leader in the “disability” world. I am actively excluded from many organizations and opportunities in that network. I don’t toe the party line, I’m not doing things that members do, and I’m not reliable to keep within the framework of that type of organization. I would exclude me if I were a leader among people who call themselves disabled.

Perhaps this is a mark that I am actually having an impact – one of those conversations I was having with myself when I was very sick in the hospital. On the one hand I am a hot potato among the people who are promoting a “disability” view of the world – on the other I am being recruited by people who think that Inclusion can be used as a leg up in the “disability” world. Such folks are going to be upset with me indeed!

It’s fascinating and puzzling to me that the ROM has gone to such great lengths to include me in their ponderous planning cycle. It is apparent that three or four key individuals went to bat energetically so that my exhibit would get established inside of 2011. Although I doubt that these people understand Inclusion the way I do – at least not yet – it is clear that they can see that I am offering something different and that I have a way of expressing that is concrete enough and clear enough for the general public to be able to get a flavour of it in a highly visual context.

For me this is a genuine achievement. Less than ten years ago I couldn’t get the words out of my own mouth – now I have an audience as well as enemies and followers, albeit some of those followers have little clue what it is they are following.

I feel I must explore what can be given away and what must be hung on to. It’s no good for me to try and do as much as I’m doing. Too much falls off the plate and I will eventually get too tired, although I’m remarkably feisty right now!